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Coltrane & Tucker’s #IceBucketChallenge to #StrikeOutALS

My boys wanted to do the #IceBucketChallenge to #StrikeOutALS. Stick around for some surprise guests!

Thanks to Auntie Melodie for the challenge!

Be sure to visit http://ALSA.org and DONATE!

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In Portland and want to see a Sneak Preview of Richard Linklater’s #Boyhood?

In Portland and want to see a Sneak Preview of Richard Linklater’s #Boyhood?

Are you in Portland, Oregon and love great movies? Well, I have something special for you.

Richard Linklater is a director who loves to make unothodox movies that try to do something you might not have ever seen before. In each of his “Before Trilogy” films (Before SunriseBefore Sunset, and Before Midnight) he told a story contained in a single day, with the same characters aging 9 years with each film, along with the same actors playing them.

His newest film is called Boyhood, and it takes this even further. Shot over a twelve year period, starting in 2002, Boyhood is a coming of age film that features the same actor (Ellar Coltrane) playing the same character as he grows up from age 6 to 18, and Ethan Hawke and Patricia Arquette as his parents over those 12 years.

Boyhood is already getting serious accolades as one of the best, most original movies of the year. Seriously, it currently has 100% Freshness on Rotten Tomatoes. 100%!

Check out the trailer here:

So, about those Portland, OR screenings…

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The Summer #EarthtoEcho Movie Prize Pack Giveaway!

The Summer #EarthtoEcho Movie Prize Pack Giveaway!

When I think back to when I was a kid, science-fiction movies were my fertile imagination’s bread-and-butter.

Sure, there was Star Wars, which of course I loved. But it was about grown-ups who lived far, far away, a long time ago. What I really loved were those great standalone movies where kids (like me!) got thrust into the adventure: The Last Starfighter, Flight of the Navigator, Explorers, and of course, E.T. the Extra-Terrestrial.  As I’ve grown up, new movies that play on the same theme have rocked my socks off, like The Iron Giant, and Super 8.

When I started seeing trailers for Earth to Echo I could tell it was exactly the sort of movie I would have gone gaga over when I was a kid. I’m so looking forward to watching it with my boys when they are old enough. Tucker has been enamored ever since he discovered that one of the characters is also named Tuck. :-)

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Helping Oren: Break the Bystander Effect

Helping Oren: Break the Bystander Effect

I first met Oren Miller in October 2012 at the At-Home Dad Convention, meeting that year in Washington, DC.

Prior to DC, he was someone I only knew online, mostly through his writing on his blog A Blogger and A Father. There he tackles a lot of the same things I do here on Daddy Doctrines — a healthy mix of personal parenting anecdotes, both sweet and funny, and commentary on modern fatherhood through the eyes of a stay-at-home dad. He was also one of the guys I learned to rely on to play Devil’s Advocate for me, after he took a contrarian’s view on the whole Huggies Thing both before and after. I grew to respect him a lot.

Meeting him in person, like meeting anyone you have previously only known online, was a little bit shocking. Yes, there was the wholly unexpected strong Israeili accent, but more than that was his quiet, unassuming demeanor that held sway right up until a razor wit or ridiculously profound observance burst forth. Anyone who knows him will know what I mean.

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Why Are My Kids Fighting NOW?

Why Are My Kids Fighting NOW?

Sometimes the things that my boys end up fighting about are astounding.

“He told me to put in PANTS!”

“He’s not SAVORING his cookie!”

“He keeps singing ALONG with me!”

“He said I’m NOT a NINJA!”

“He ALWAYS gets to hold the Costco receipt!”

“But I wanted to finish lunch FIRST!”

And of course

“HE HIT ME BACK!”

What crazy things do your kids fight about most?

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Conversations with Little People: Prayers

Conversations with Little People: Prayers

Bedtime prayers are something we do every night around here, and it was certainly pretty special when the boys both started saying them on their own. We encourage them to not just say something by rote, but to actually think about what they are thankful for, or what they want to talk to Jesus about.

Of course, sometimes this backfires…

Coltrane: “Dear Jesus, t’ank you for dwagons, and tha’ we can have a dwagon in our house, and dwagons, dwagons, dwagons rrrrrrrrrooooooooooooaaaaaaaaaarrrrrr! Jesus’ name, aye… dwagon! I mean amen. Dwagon.”
Tucker: “Dear Jesus, please please pleeeeease don’t let Coltrane have any dragons. Amen.”
Coltrane: “HEY!”
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I Interviewed my Preschooler about Cosmos: A Spacetime Odyssey

When I was asked if I would be interested in making a fun video interviewing my son about space to help celebrate the release of Cosmos: A Spacetime Odyssey on DVD and Blu-Ray, you can bet I jumped at that chance.

And fast.

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This is the #PowerofDad

This is the #PowerofDad

From even before the time my boys were old enough to start brushing their teeth, we’ve had a little routine around our house about how we get it done before bed.

And like most things around here, it relies on a fun and memorable song. My wife and I being who we are, we even throw in some harmonies:

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The #WorldsToughestJob is Unscripted

We’re sitting down to dinner as a family, and my fork, full of food, is making its way into my mouth, when my son decides it’s a good time to ask the question no parent is really ready for:

“Dada, but HOW does the baby get into the Mama’s tummy?”

I try not to choke. I raise my finger in the universal signal of “Uh… give me a moment, please” and I chew, slowly, while my brain goes into overdrive.

There is no script for parenting moments like these.

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How I Spent my Dadcation at #DestinationDad

How I Spent my Dadcation at #DestinationDad

It’s the question that always gets asked this time of year: “What do you get for a dad for Father’s Day?”

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3 O’Clock People: Talking to Kids About Homelessness

3 O’Clock People: Talking to Kids About Homelessness

I see her as we approach the red light and slow to a stop. I don’t know her name, but in my mind I always call her Jane. We’ve never spoken, though I have seen her many, many times through my windshield.

Fingers tight together, she’s waving with one raised hand, like the Queen from her carriage to her loyal subjects. She smiles a huge, toothy ear-to-ear smile that makes her eyes squint just a little and gives off a feeling like she is on top of the world. Arms, face, and hands are deeply tanned from the sun, and the wind flutters her billowy pants and tied-back mousy hair.  In her non-waving hand she holds a cardboard sign where in crude black letters it says:

“Desperate and Alone. Please help.”

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14 Lies You’ve Been Told About Dads

14 Lies You’ve Been Told About Dads

Now that Mother’s Day has come and gone, the slow trickle of dad-stuff is about to begin, as advertisers and marketers and the media in all its forms start looking for ways to move the focus onto dads. (At least for a couple of weeks.)

Sadly, this usually means a whole lot of (perhaps) well-meaning discussion about dads that still present one of the many falsehoods, fabrications, and outright lies about fathers that just won’t seem to die. Some of these things are annoyances. Others are actually incredibly harmful to families, to kids, and to the dads themselves.

Since we’re still early in the Father’s Day pre-season, I thought I’d nip these in the bud right away.

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Circle Time: A Story About Parents as Partners

Circle Time: A Story About Parents as Partners

I shared this earlier, in a private group online, but the feeling was that it’s too good to not share with everyone. So, here it is (slightly edited). Of course moms totally deserve a day to be celebrated, but it is nice to see that most of these kids clearly have such active and involved dads. It’s really encouraging that they are growing up in a world where they see mom and dad as equally valuable parenting partners. Also, it was pretty cute, and hilarious sitting there watching the teacher’s face.

I was parent-helper this morning at preschool, and with Mother’s Day coming up their “Circle Time” was, of course, themed all about moms, mommies, and mamas. Teacher Annie (not her real name) read a few books about moms, they discussed the upcoming “Muffins with Moms” event, and then the kids were asked to share some of their favorite things that their moms do for them. The idea was to get them thinking about what sort of things they might want to write in the Mother’s Day cards they will make (shhh, it’s a surprise!).

When not a lot of hands shot up, Annie offered a few nice suggestions to get them thinking. Things like: “Who brings you to school? Who makes your lunch? Who reads with you? Who gives you lots of great big hugs?”

“My mom does…” said one kid. “And so does my dad!”

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“Don’t #SayAnything, baby, just let me be your #LatteRomeo.”

“Don’t #SayAnything, baby, just let me be your #LatteRomeo.”

Mother’s Day is, as you may have heard, coming up quickly. My friends at Starbucks and Life of Dad have put out the challenge to see who can wrangle his kids to show their mom just how awesome she is, and prove himself the real #LatteRomeo. And what better way than with breakfast in bed?

The catch? You have to let the kids decide what to serve, and then do it. No matter what they choose. Then top it off with a delicious Starbucks Via Latte, because yum.

The fun? Make a sweet, sweet little video about it, of course.

The reward? What you mean beyond giving joy to the one who bore my children; who is responsible for making me a dad? Why, only a chance at a $500 Starbucks gift card!

Yes, that’s right. Mac and cheese, blueberry yogurt, pickles, a Starbucks Via Mocha Latte, and a little bit of Peter Gabriel and a classic 80′s movie reference.

Think you can do better?

Are you the real #LatteRomeo? Check out the full rules and guidelines for the Starbucks VIA® Latte #LatteRomeo Mother’s Day Video Contest and get to work. The contest ends May 12th, 2014, at 5PM EST. Also, be sure to join us for the #LatteRomeo Twitter party on May 9th at 1pm (EST) to win some great prizes.

I should warn you, that the last time Life of Dad and Starbucks teamed up on a promotion like this, I walked away with the top prize. I plan on doing so again, but what fun is it without a challenge? Bring it, #Latte… um… whoever the opposite of Romeo is. Richard III? Yeah, yeah, that’ll work.

Bring it, #LatteRichardIII!

Disclosure: This is a sponsored post, in conjunction with Starbucks and Life of Dad, LLC. I was provided with sample packets of Starbucks VIA® Latte, and received compensation for participating in this promotion.

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Seriously, McDonalds? Would you like a side of gender bias with that?

Seriously, McDonalds? Would you like a side of gender bias with that?

Sometimes you think you’ve seen it all when it comes to the whole “boy toy” and “girl toy” thing. I thought maybe we’d reached Peak Pink, especially with that McDonald’s “chief diversity officer” just last week announcing that:

It is McDonald’s intention and goal that each customer who desires a Happy Meal toy be provided the toy of his or her choice, without any classification of the toy as a ‘boy’ or ‘girl’ toy and without any reference to the customer’s gender. We have recently reexamined our internal guidelines, communications and practices and are making improvements to better ensure that our toys are distributed consistent with our policy.

Apparently that doesn’t mean they have figured out the ridiculousness of this sort of thing though.

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Mom Goggles: A Study in Every Stereotype Imaginable

Mom Goggles: A Study in Every Stereotype Imaginable

Apparently, even super-talented, well-meaning guys still fall back on tired, harmful stereotypes when Mother’s Day rolls around and they want to pander to moms and sell videos to churches.

Too cynical? Maybe. You decide for yourself.

Here’s the latest from “The Skit Guys,” two long-time friends who have made a career out of writing, producing, and starring in family-friendly, faith-inspired videos.

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Whose Job is _______? The Ultimate Parenting Task List, Divided by Gender

Whose Job is _______? The Ultimate Parenting Task List, Divided by Gender

It used to be that the roles of parents were fairly well defined, based on whether the parent in question were a man or a women. Here in the 21st century, where such roles are no longer so clear, many often express confusion about which parenting responsibilities should fall on which parent.

If you too find yourself wondering if you are doing something in the course of raising your children that is really your job, or should be done by your partner, here is a handy guide to help you:

Mom Only
Mom or Dad

(Dad in supporting* role)

  • Carrying and delivering a baby.
  • Breastfeeding.
  • Um… that’s it.

(Shared responsibilities, divided however partners mutually decide)

  • Everything** else.

It’s not complicated.

* Not that you don’t have an important role in these things, dads; your job there is making sure she has all the support possible.
** Yes. Everything.
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My Dancing Boys and their Sweet Moves

My Dancing Boys and their Sweet Moves

My local fellow-SAHD friends Aaron and Ryan, aka Micah & Me, gave the boys a great opportunity to cut a rug recently. Somehow Google+ automatically generated this sweet GIF of the action for me. :-)

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Why, yes, as a matter of fact he can do this and still be “ALL BOY.”

Why, yes, as a matter of fact he can do this and still be “ALL BOY.”

My toddler loves “babywearing” his stuffed monkey, who he also puts down for naps, feeds, and soothes when she is sad or scared.

He also loves running, laughing, spinning, tickle fights, building, and randomly roaring like a dragon/dinosaur/lion.

There are many ways to be “all boy.”

Do you agree?

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I am the Keeper of my Kid’s Memories

I am the Keeper of my Kid’s Memories

There’s a little game my son Tucker used to play with us, starting when he was about two years old and continuing up until he was four. We called it “Death Scenes.”

It is pretty much exactly what it sounds like: he took the stage (i.e. he stood in the middle of the living room) and acted out his death in dramatic fashion. Usually this involved a grab to the throat as if choking, much gasping and wide-eyed gurgling, followed by a collapse to the floor, and a slight death rattle as a mortal coil was shuffled off. Sometimes it was instead some mysterious stomach ailment. Almost always, this dramatic death was followed by the sudden resurrection and rise of a gruesome, adorable zombie, who immediately began moans of “Bwaaaaaains! Bwaaaains!” and started attempting to consume the delectable grey matter of his unsuspecting audience. Unlike traditional zombies, these walking dead were typically only repelled via the judicious use of tickles.

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